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Wednesday, January 11, 2012

You Really Got A Hold On Me...

Sometimes I start to feel a little overwhelmed.


I try to make my blog fabulous because I love blogging so so much,
I try to keep up with twitter,
Planning the SoCal Blogger Meetup plays a huge role in my life right now..
I even have some top secret "projects" in the works right now with some blogger friends,
and well I've started to hear this from my in real life peeps...

"I think you forgot to read my facebook message?"
"Did you see my text?"
"I called you earlier..?"
"You've been on your laptop since I got home, I'm sitting on the couch next to you.. I just thought that maybe you'd want to give me a hug? Maybe?" <--Ya that's the boyfriend, I feel particularly guilty about that one
"You drove here last night, it's 8am and you're on your laptop. How about you say good morning to your dad first?" <-- Also feel realllllly guilty about that one.

Where do we draw the line, 
"between I need to reply to this comment."
"I need to respond to this email, no really I do."
"I need to pin this before we leave."
"I need to post this on twitter."
"I know we just got to dinner, but I really need to take a picture and check-in on foursquare, twitter, yelp, and facebook. It will only take a minute, I swear."
I need.. I need.. I need?

I always try to be the best daughter, sister, friend and girlfriend I can be,
and I'm trying to figure out that balance thing.

It's no joke.
How do you balance all the different ways you stay connected?
I think I could use some advice...


xoxo,
Tamms

23 comments:

lsaz said...

I feel the same way. I use to be on my laptop all night sitting next to my bf not giving him attention and felt so bad. Now I've discovered blogging and its even worse! Where to find my balance? Great post!

Amira said...

Do you give yourself the weekends off? I've found that helped a lot...There just isn't enough time in the day!

Hollie Ann said...

I'm terrible at responding to comments but I'm cool with it and no weekend blogging!

Samantha said...

This sounds all too familiar. It's hard for me to stop blogging on the weekends, but I definitely cut down on it a bit. It's hard to find that perfect balance, but I have gotten better with trying to get my blogging-fix when the boyfriend isn't home. :) When he is sitting next to me on the couch, i've forced myself to not grab my laptop... Sooooooo hard sometimes.

Good luck!! :)

Sam

Anna Elder said...

Honestly, I kinda suck at keep things balanced. Like, when I'm on Twitter I'm not doing anything else. Even though I try to. I feel like if I'm putting effort into one thing, it needs to be my full effort otherwise everything is pretty half-assed. I need to set an alarm in the evenings to tell me to get off the twitter. I try to schedule blog posts, but I have't been lately. If you find a nice balance that works for you please let us all in on it!! I need some tips.

Dani said...

As much as the internet provides us, these things that consumer our time are fleeting. But family, loves, adventures never leave.

I am often guilty of this too. It is so difficult to have a balance. But what I remind myself is that a blog never turns off. It will be there tomorrow. But what I am doing and who I am with is here now.

Good luck finding that balance and as a new reader, I look forward to learning more about you.

Dani // andbubblegum.com

Faith said...

i don't know ... but you figure it out. it just happens one day when you realize that you would rather spend the day with a friend then behind the computer. there is nothing wrong with blogging or wanting your blog to grow, but there has to be balance in everything we do or else we burn out.

blogging should be fun and when it starts to take away from our daily lives and begins to feel like a job, that is when i take a step back.

you'll figure it out because once you realize how much it takes away, you start making changes.

:)

LatteLove said...

a personal commitment I have is that when my blog becomes less talking about my life, and becomes my life - it's time to step back.

Budget time, make priorities for your internet time, and then step away! You can't do everything. :-) good luck.

emenchho said...

Funny you should post this because several of you lovely ladies that I follow...have all posted something along these lines this week.

I have been guilty of those things at times...won't say I'm cured, maybe if I had a significant other, my time would have to be re-prioritized.

I think my check-ins got out of control and now I don't bother unless I'm at an event, rather than everyday stops of life.

Hope you find the balance you (and your family/friends) are searching for! :)

Jenna said...

I also used to struggle with this constantly, until around December when I realized that I couldn't keep up with it all anymore.

I decided to try and get in 3-4 posts per week, but not have a panic attack if I couldn't for some reason or if my bf wanted to go on a spontaneous date night.

It's been working so good so far! But, I also had to accept that my blog wouldn't grow as quickly as it had been, so I guess there's pros and cons for both.

Hope this helps!

xxx
Jenna

Daisy said...

Yeah Its a hard balance!

Kate @ Daffodils said...

I agree with some ladies above to suggest to take some time off. I don't check blogs on the weekends and try to knock out a few posts at a time and schedule them so Im not always working at night. I also limit the other ways I network, I dont use facebook or twitter or instragram...the blog is and the blog and I keep it at that. Im sure you will find the right balance for you, and certainly empathsize with spending too much time blogging- I am definitely guilty of letting it get away from me!

Betsy said...

ugh...it's hard, isn't it? I get overwhelmed too sometimes. I think the points when I've felt this most have been when I felt like blogging was a second job. That's when I'm like...I'm not doing this to make more work for myself, it's supposed to be a creative outlet! I will say that I deactivated my Facebook a few weeks ago and while it was hard at first, it's been such a freeing time!
Good luck trying to strike a balance.

siddathornton said...

scheduling a big chunk of posts at a time really helps me stay 'present' in my life - otherwise, i can be found in the dark abyss of blogging. i also try to set aside a day or two per week to catch up on my favorite blogs.

Kristin W said...

I can relate (and I don't have near as many followers). I try to just take a night (or a few) here and there and don't open my computer. After working all day, it's nice to just lounge. Even schedule a "no computer" day if you need!

Erin said...

I can relate so much to this post. I am finding it really hard to stay connected to others' blogs when I am trying to write my pots, respond to emails, and still do my normal daily activities...it's getting tougher!

Tannita said...

Before I forget i have that hat in brown!:) I know what you mean, im sure a ton of people do, wait.. I sometimes feel the way the BF feels because Phil does it to me sometimes too. What I do is just ... STOP. What really matters is the person that is right there next to you. I know the .. "let me do this first, it will be really quick" feeling but.. I can also come back to it later. Besides boy's need space pretty fast.. so you will be back on your laptop in no time at all. :)

Jamie said...

I can totally relate to this! I finally realized that it is impossible for me to do everything and that relationships with the people that matter to me most need to be a priority. I set aside time during the week to respond to everything but block off days where I don't blog/email/comment at all, its beautiful!

Natalie said...

Sometimes, I feel as a blogger I spend so much time blogging that i forget to really enjoy the life i am blogging about!

Kristina Gulino said...

Natalie is spot on - You can blog, but don't forget to LIVE! How can you post about that amazing cookie recipe if you never had time to make it? :) For me, it's all about simplicity. If things are too crazy, I take a step back and remember the days I HAD no control of my schedule (with school, sports, etc). Now that I'm married and a family of my own, you have to be firm in not overcommitting yourself. Unfortunately, most of my friends are too busy to ever hang out, and it's as tough on them as it is on me. But it is avoidable. Learning to say "no" is tough, but in the end your mind (and boyfriend!) will thank you!

Kristina
Something 2 Write About

Olivia.Dee said...

we'll find the balance... it's all a work in progress especially with all these new projects popping up. but we will find it. and take breaks as necessary. :)

thelonelywifeproject said...

I deal with this same issue and I'm having serious balancing problems. Let me know when you find the solution. Oh and thanks for the invite to the meetup! I'll definitely try to make it.

Tiffany @ Savor Home said...

LOVE this post because it is SO real. I have a very full time job and blogging sometimes feels like job #2. Starting this month, I don't blog on Wed or Fri nights. So far it is working out great. I may not have a post everyday during the week, but I think the extra rest and downtime makes it worth it.

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